This is the saddest song I know.
First heard it as a Body Flow song and really liked her soft passionate voice. The lyrics work, telling the story of being in love but sensing something isn’t as it should be. When you really love someone you want them to have the best there is and when something isn’t as it should be you know they deserve more than you are able to give them. They can’t appreciate that you leaving is the right thing because they love you so they fight and this begins to chip away at your already low confidence in your decision.
It’s sad because we take a chance with love and it hurts us most of the time. Sometimes we love more and get cut deeper, somethings we love less and carry Missy Higgins doubt. There are no winners in the moments when a relationship crumbles. Dreams have died and while everyone can be in a better place in a year or two, at the end that place seems very far away.
I think her song captures this experience well:
“Where I Stood”
I don’t know what I’ve done
Or if I like what I’ve begun
But something told me to run
And honey you know me it’s all or noneThere were sounds in my head
Little-voices whispering
That I should go and this should end
Oh and I found myself listening‘Cos I don’t know who I am, who I am without you
All I know is that I should
And I don’t know if I could stand another hand upon you
All I know is that I should
‘Cos she will love you more than I could
She who dares to stand where I stoodSee I thought love was black and white
That it was wrong or it was right
But you ain’t leaving without a fight
And I think I am just as torn inside‘Cos I don’t know who I am, who I am without you
All I know is that I should
And I don’t know if I could stand another hand upon you
All I know is that I should
‘Cos she will love you more than I could
She who dares to stand where I stoodAnd I won’t be far from where you are if ever you should call
You meant more to me than anyone I ever loved at all
But you taught me how to trust myself and so I say to you
This is what I have to do‘Cos I don’t know who I am, who I am without you
Missy Higgins
All I know is that I should
And I don’t know if I could stand another hand upon you
All I know is that I should
‘Cos she will love you more than I could
She who dares to stand where I stood
Oh, she who dares to stand where I stood